BLOG – WAYS TO DEAL WITH CONTROLLING PEOPLE
- angelicascensionen
- Apr 4, 2024
- 3 min read
Updated: Apr 16, 2024
Author: Ann Staunton
Date: 01/04/2024
BLOG – WAYS TO DEAL WITH CONTROLLING PEOPLE
DEFINE CONTROLLING PEOPLE
Controlling people are Individuals who have a strong desire to dominate, manipulate, or exert power over others. They dictate the thoughts, emotions, behaviours of those around them, often at the expense of others well-being. They are not interested in discovering who they are themselves, but in telling you who you are.
MOST COMMON DRIVERS OF CONTROLLING BEHAVIOURS
The most common drivers of controlling behaviours are anxiety and personality disorders.
People with anxiety disorders feel the need to control everything around them so that they can feel at peace. They don’t trust anyone to do things the way they do them.
There could be underlying traumas, emotion or inner child wounds that makes people feel the need to control others.
Some of the underlying causes are Low self-esteem, being controlled by someone else or traumatic past experiences.
People that try to assert power over others and control situations sometimes do this out of anxiety because they worry that things will go wrong if they do not maintain control. In other cases, it may be to assert dominance. In this case, it is a form of abuse.
The impulse to control others is often an indication of deeper internal struggles or unresolved issues. Addressing the root cause may involve exploring and addressing underlying insecurities, fears, or emotional wounds through self-reflection or with an authentic healer who can take you through the journey back to optimal health.
CONTROLLING PEOPLE
Exert control over others to compensate for their own lack of security and self-esteem.
They adopt controlling behaviours to cope with their fear of losing control due to past unhealed traumas or loss. They often have underlying mental health conditions like anxiety, OCD, or narcissistic personality disorder that can contribute to their controlling behaviour.
If you try to control people eventually, they will resent and feel anger towards you. Those that hold the reigns too tightly depend on others for their happiness. Control can destroy and suffocate relationships! It does not free anyone, It angers, creates silence and divides families, relationships, and communities.
When a toxic person can no longer control you, they try and control how others see you. This can feel unfair but stay above it and trust that other people will eventually see the truth.
None of us enjoy being controlled and sometimes “controlling others” becomes our mode of operation when we don’t have “self-control”.When you have self-control, you understand that the only person you should have control over is yourself.
HOW TO DEAL WITH CONTROLLING PEOPLE
Be firm clear and concise when establishing and enforcing boundaries.
Make it about you and your limits not them about them and what is best for them.
Don’t react, keep your responses simple and don’t overcomplicate the things you say.
Keep a neutral gaze, expression and tone of voice when speaking with them. Don't let your emotions get the best of you. Make it clear that you're committed to working with them but let them know your boundaries and that they're non-negotiable.
CONCLUSION
It's important to remember that you deserve to be treated with respect, dignity, and autonomy. By setting boundaries, practicing assertiveness, and prioritizing self-care, you can navigate challenging relationships with greater confidence, resilience, and inner strength.
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